Five Things that Stand Between You and Your Happiness |
5 Things
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According to the
latest
World Happiness Report, people in developing
nations such as Sierra Leone and Nicaragua are finding more
and more things to be happy about, while those in the
richest, most developed nations (such as the UK, USA and
Canada) are becoming less happy over time. What is causing
more discontent in developed nations? And can we reverse
this trend?
Dr Dain Heer is an internationally
renowned speaker, author and co-creator of Access
Consciousness®, a popular set of life tools and
philosophies. He maintains that
people are becoming unhappier simply because they are losing
sight of what happiness is and where it comes from.
“Happiness has nothing to do with what is going on around
us; it’s literally a choice we individually make, moment to
moment”, Heer advises. “It’s great to hold outside
circumstances responsible for our level of happiness – how
much money is in the bank, whether the boss is happy,
whether we have the right car – but the truth is, you are
the only one who can decide to be happy or unhappy in any
situation”, he adds.
To understand how
much you are in charge of your happiness, Dr Heer suggests
you practice the art of choosing contentment. “Start
by practicing to be happy, even if it’s just for 10 seconds
at a time. You can choose it again as many times over as you
like”, he remarks.
In order to find happiness, Dr Heer also advises individuals
to be aware of the five things that stand in the way between
you and happiness.
Judgement:
When you are in a constant state of judgement, either of
yourself or others, you are inducing feelings of
disappointment, despair or anger. “There is no way to feel
happy when you are in this state” Heer says. Whenever you
catch yourself judging someone, realise that it is just your
point of view. Say to yourself, “I have this point of view.
What an interesting point of view” until the judgement
disappears.
Love:
Love means something different to every single one of us; it
is impossible to determine or agree on. “In other words, you
can’t get love right, ever. So stop trying”, Heer advises.
“Gratitude is what really creates the level of caring and
acceptance we try to get from love. The magical power of
gratitude is that you can’t have gratitude and judge at the
same time.” If you want to kill judgment and get happy
instead, get some gratitude going!
Being Right:
Everybody has a different point of view and you can spend
your time in conflict, trying to convince them that they are
wrong, or you can ask yourself “Do I want to be right, or do
I want to be happy?”
Saving the World:
Serial “problem-solvers” will always find it difficult to
find lasting happiness because, as Dr Heer advises “in order
to solve problems, you have to have problems.”
It is not your place to set the world right according to
your points of view and you will have trouble being happy if
you are constantly focusing on trouble and strife.
Friends:
“Make a list of 3 happy people you enjoy talking to and call
them up when you need a boost. Seek out happy friends and
don’t hang out with unhappy ones”, Heer suggests. If you
have mostly surrounded yourself with unhappy people – get
proactive! Try out new things and meet new people.
About Dr Dain
Heer
Dain Heer is an
internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of
consciousness, and change and for the last 14 years has been
inviting people to embrace their true greatness. His book,
Being You, Changing the World - Is Now the Time? is
published in seven languages. For more information visit
www.drdainheer.com
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